Many people keep mementos of those who have passed away: photos, clothing, jewelry. These are symbols of love, memory, and gratitude. However, there is a type of object that, according to spiritualist teachings and profound reflections on attachment, can become such a strong bond that it holds both the spirit and the living person. This isn’t superstition: it’s the emotional and magnetic force that remains in the most intimate things.
This object isn’t a photo, clothing, or an old letter. It’s something much more personal… and more charged with energy.
The Invisible Link Between the Material and Spiritual Worlds
Allan Kardec explained that spirits don’t immediately detach themselves from the physical plane. They remain connected through memories, feelings, and, above all, through the objects that were important in their lives.
When someone keeps a personal item belonging to a deceased person, especially if it was used until the very end, they are not only preserving a memory: they are preserving a deep emotional charge. This charge can become a bridge. A bridge that, unintentionally, prevents progress.
Not All Objects Are the Same
Photos hold memories, but not energy.
Clothing retains affection, but its magnetism fades.
Documents, furniture, and letters rarely pose a spiritual risk.
But there is a distinct category: objects that were literally in contact with the body until the very last breath.
The Most Dangerous Object: The Wedding Band, Ring, or Jewelry Worn at the Moment of De:ath
The wedding ring, the wedding band, the bracelet, the necklace, or the watch worn for years—and especially worn at the moment of death—carries the most intense emotional magnetism of all.
These objects:
Witnessed the person’s entire life.
Accompanied joys, sorrows, arguments, and promises.
And, finally… were present at the moment of departure.
From a spiritualist perspective, this energy doesn’t disappear: it remains.
And by remaining, it can become an anchor.
When the person left behind touches that object and relives the pain, the spirit feels the call. When someone uses it as if it were their own, the unconscious message is:
“This is still yours… I’m still waiting for you.”
That bond can comfort, but it can also hold you back.
When Memory Becomes a Chain
Many believe they honor the deceased by wearing their wedding ring or watch. But if that gesture is accompanied by tears, deep longing, or difficulty moving forward, the object ceases to be a symbol and becomes a burden.
Some signs that this is happening:
You feel sadness every time you look at or touch that piece.
Keeping it frightens you, but so does using it.
Your emotional life seems to be at a standstill.
You feel the presence of the deceased as if they haven’t truly left.
There is stagnation in the house, in the atmosphere, or even in your decisions.
It’s not witchcraft or “cursed objects.”
It’s emotional attachment… and spiritual attachment.
The Energy of the Last Moment
Objects stored without a farewell, a prayer, or a closing gesture can retain the energy of the moment of death.
That’s why, when opening a box years later, some people feel a chill, intense nostalgia, or a heavy silence. It’s the accumulated magnetism.
Homes with many accumulated objects that haven’t been energetically cleansed can become dense and heavy… not because of ghosts, but because of unprocessed memories.
So, should we throw everything away? No.
Kardec didn’t recommend destroying or fearing objects.
The key is to find new meaning.
The danger isn’t in the ring itself.
The danger lies in the attachment we place on it.
What truly matters is the emotional and spiritual intention:
If you look at it and feel peace → it’s a memory.
If you look at it and feel pain → it’s a chain.
How to Release a Heavy Object
If you feel an object is weighing you down, you can transform it. Here are some ways:
1. Simple Farewell Ritual
Hold it in your hands and say softly:
“Thank you for what you represent. I release you and I release myself.”
2. Symbolic Cleansing
This can be done with running water, incense, prayer, or a white candle.
3. Transformation
Turn the ring into a pendant, make a locket, or change its purpose.
4. Keep it with a Purpose
Place it on an altar, in a pretty box, or in a space where it no longer evokes pain.
5. Donate it, if possible
To someone who will give it new meaning.
The important thing is not the physical gesture, but the emotional one.
What if you can’t let go?
Then the work begins within.
Detachment isn’t about throwing things away: it’s about understanding.
It’s about accepting that love doesn’t need an object to exist.
Don’t put pressure on yourself. Just acknowledge what you feel. That acknowledgment already begins the process of letting go.
Tips and Recommendations
If an inherited object causes you distress, don’t use it until you’ve reinterpreted its meaning.
Avoid sleeping with jewelry that belonged to someone who has passed away if you are still grieving.
Keep rooms well-ventilated and filled with natural light; stagnant energy worsens attachment.
